Techs and Tips on Self-Improvement in the '10

We discussed the definitions of personal development and evaluation, setting the stage to begin the work. Then we discussed how to actually evaluate and assess your growth. We will now discuss ways and strategies of self-improvement and how to personally grow.

1 .Start doing a reflection, a once a quarter check in with yourself to see any growth or stagnation.
2. Again reevaluate your criteria, you may have changed and grew since your last self-check, so make sure your criteria matches where you are.
3. DISCERN! You have that intuition, that gut feeling on things, GO WITH IT!

We are great examining everyone else, but it's challenging examining ourselves. WHY?.
Primarily, it is due to how we view and think of ourselves. With that said, we try to be someone else that seems to work for a time. But, it doesn't work for us to be like someone else other than ourselves! We are our own person, it is a matter of Discovering who you TRULY ARE!

In College I learned the Integrated Therapeutic Model, discussing the PRETTY, DESPERATE, DREADED SELF. Many times we present the Pretty self, that best foot forward image we want people to gravitate to, the Desperate Self, which we demonstrate Defense Mechanisms to supplement the image we want people to buy in, and the Dreaded self, which is the ultimate area NO ONE knows about you, as you view yourself in the most lowest form, such as feeling worthless, helpless, degradable, vulnerable, nothing, etc. With this all said, we do what is necessary to NOT let ANYONE EVER come close to our Dreaded View of Self, and pretend to be this PRETTY SELF, NOT Realizing that the Pretty Self is actually who we are! We don't have to pretend to be something we are, we need to face our fear, the lie of the Dreaded Self, acknowledging, embracing that unacceptable part. When we do, we then experience something called REFRAME, which is like Redemption! We can be okay with our good and not so good parts, accept those things about ourselves, be okay with it, so we can BECOME the Pretty Self in ACTUALITY! If you need a breakdown with this, contact me at www.info@reset-mylife.net!

To Recap, HERE IS MY PERSONAL , *NOTE this is NOT and Exhaustive list, you can always add or take away to make it fit you in A-Z LIST OF TIPS AND TECHNIQUES ON SELF-IMPROVEMENT, 2010 STYLEyour Self-Improvement Program! Enjoy!

1. MAKE IT SIMPLE FOR YOU
a. Accept where you are, what you are able to handle so you wont be overwhelmed and reluctant to change.
2. ALL THE TECHNIQUES AND TIPS TO GROW:
a. When you want to change, YOU WILL!
b. HAVE TO BE WILLING TO DO WHATS NECESSARY
c. Where we are today is Based on What we know!
d. May have to RESET self if necessary than to continue going nowhere
e. It’s okay, embrace and accept faults and mistakes, and shake it off, keep it moving.
f. Weaknesses are uncultivated strengths anyway!
g. Set your expectations and standards high!
h. Dream Big! Your Vision? Do you have one? Sure you do!
i. If it is something that is beyond you, GREAT! Start doing whats necessary to make it happen
j. Put self in position =challenge self
k. Get with those who have your answer, Steer Clear Away from ones who have your problem!
l. Let go of the deficits NO MATTER WHO THEY ARE, or at least change the amount of time you spend with them
m. START OFF SAYING TO YOURSELF YOU ARE SOMEBODY, WITH VALUE AND PURPOSE THAT NEEDS TO BE INVESTED INTO!
n. DIFFERENTIATE THOSE WHO ARE FOR YOU AND WHOSE AGAINST YOU How? By seeing who pours into your without wanting anything and its reciprocated vs. those depleting and draining you or putting you down. Even if its someone close to you! It for your sake, not there's!
o. Open the door for new things places, and people!
p. Get a Mentor that has similar interests you have!
q. Get around folks that are inspired, going places!
r. GET BOOKS READING IS TRULY FUNDAMENTAL!
s. READ LIST OF BOOKS
t. Journal! You may have answers to future problems for you and someone else!
u. STOP LOOKING AT WHAT YOU DON’T HAVE, WHO DONE YOU WRONG AND WANT TO GET BACK! FORGIVE FOR YOURSELF MOVE ON LOOK AT WHAT YOU DO POSSESS AND START THERE!
v. Forgive yourself that you not where you should be, etc. ITS NOT TOO LATE just work with what you got!
w. Because people dear to us said things about us that were bad and wrong, or we took it wrong we became that! PROVE THEM WRONG! Take in what people say nice about you
x. Recognize your uniqueness! What do you bring to the table. If nothing, then develop yourself so you can bring to the table.
y. Become what you want to attract! Example, Ladies, you want a good man, Be good yourself! You want a man making 7 figures, you should be doing the same!
z. Discover Gifts and Talents and use them!

NEXT WEEK'S LAST TOPIC ON SELF DEVELOPMENT AND EVALUATION: How to maintain growth and know when to perpetuate or continue on in your growth!